A Goodbye from Lele
A Good Bye from Lele
As Josh and I began to say our goodbyes on the Friday before we left Lesotho, I think we both realized how much we had touched our students’ lives and how much they had touched ours. Our last day was emotional and filled with many hugs and tears. This trip was amazing- it pushed me to change the way I think about my responsibility to others and my role as a citizen of the world who has been blessed with an education and financial security. I want global health to be a part of my future, I want children and gender health issues to continue to hold my attention and influence my actions, and I want to keep learning how to see the world around me in new ways and resolve issues I do see with the wonderful education I have received and will continue to seek.
On Saturday, as we packed our taxis with our bags for the airport, 3 girls from Josh and my class showed up at our house to see us off. It was very sweet and I was really touched by the gesture. As we were about to leave, Lele arrived with a tear-streaked face and handed me a letter. In the airport, later, I opened and read the letter and thought she wouldn’t mind if I shared it now. I believe the letter allowed me to see how little we know about our students’ very real struggles and how Josh and I had an amazing opportunity this summer to make a change, even a small one, in our students’ lives.
The letter follows:
‘Dear Neha and Josh,
Leaving you is a very challenging thing for me. I have to assume certain responsibilities that I am not prepared for as a young woman. Losing you means that I have lost my source of support, my source of inspiration and my cheerleader. You were very proud of me and always encouraging me to do well.
It also means that there are many changes going to happen in my life and I choose to view them in a positive light. I realize I have to grow up quickly as there are many important decisions to be made in terms of what the next steps in my life will be.
You must be wondering why everything depends on me. My mother is a single parent with two children and as the eldest I have to take a leading role in the household. Many negative things happen but I choose not to dwell on them. I can proudly say I will become focused on my life and try to achieve my goals with all my might. I sometimes blame my mother for bringing me to this world, when I am sad, but, I realize it’s not a matter of who brought me but, it’s a matter of making it happen while I’m still alive. I lived 18 years up to now, but I never knew my father and my mother always tells me how bad he was, when they were married. My father was a thief stealing cars, but I do not blame my mother for leaving him and he was also a murderer so my mom didn’t want to get killed at last. We left my dad when I was only 3 months and that was the last time I saw my dad. When I was 15 years old, m mom got pregnant with my younger brother Mosa who is 3 years now and he is my half brother, but I love him and he is so great to me and I hope will be in the future, I mean no fights because we are brother and sister. I just want to appreciate my mom and my brother and show them love. Without you Neha and Josh, all hope is not lost.
Life goes on, I won’t lose myself into the situation, instead I will stand up and dust myself off and keep doing things that would have made you proud. As they say “Life’s ups and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals”. I will think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life I want which is achieving a dream of being in America one day and I’ll be with you guys.
Neha? You mad me realize what life is and I enjoyed everyday with you.
Josh? You mad me think of my younger brother and I always said “ I wish my brother one day will be like Josh.”
You were so amazing guys. You both taught me what happiness is. You were like brother and sister to me. I will always remember you guys and this is the most happiest moment I have ever had in my life and the most sad when you are leaving me, but I really want to visit you one day. We will stay in touch!
I love you Josh and Neha. Thank You for everything. Thinking of you day and night.
From: Lele’
This experience has been wonderful. I owe a huge part of this, first, to Beyond Traditional Borders and Dr. Richards Kortum. Dr. Richards Kortum has always been an inspiring mentor for me and has taught me that the key ingredient to success is a strong character and a strong family. I am also very grateful for having Josh as my partner throughout this project and experience. He is intelligent, hard-working, thoughtful, and I know he will be a great asset to Beyond Traditional Borders for the next 3 years.
I was so hopeful, so anxious, and so apprehensive going into this project that Josh and I wouldn’t be able to give our students anything useful. I realized the students we were working with are eager to learn and willing to work hard, and when you are working with amazing people like that, it’s hard not to leave feeling like you’ve accomplished something and to feel that you have grown as well. I am happy and thankful for this experience. The students all genuinely seemed to enjoy the program and Josh and I were so happy to find how enthusiastically they took to our lessons.
This trip was a thought provoking and emotional experience. It has been one of the best of my life so far. I know that I will always remember it and how this project started to shape and form my vision of my own future. I want global health and non-profit work to be a significant part of my future career. Dr. Richards Kortun showed us a video clip in our global health class a few months ago where a women said, “Find out what makes you really angry, or really sad, or really passionate, and then do something that involves that - that works to solve it”. From this trip, I’ve realized how very real women and gender issues are in the developing world: how intimately tied financial independence, education, and health really are, and I’ve realized how very real my passion is for this issue. I’m really excited about my own future now, pursuing a PhD in bioengineering while starting to explore ways I can become involved with these gender and health issues abroad and even in my own community. The Bioengineering department and Beyond Traditional Borders Initiative have given me a truly enriching and thought-provoking experience and education and I know that I am leaving Rice a much stronger person than I came in.



